No Point In Being ‘Just Friends’
When you get to know that the person you love doesn’t love you back, it turns out heartbreak. It hurts. If you want to stop loving that person then you have to build your willpower. It would be the best and safest idea. Distance yourself from that person and don’t reply to his texts.
If he contacts you out of pit or may be guilt, then don’t let yourself to go back to that situation. Don’t respond to his phone calls under any circumstances. Unfriend him/her on social media and hide or delete the person’s previous posts. There is no need to constantly remind yourself about that person as it will make harder for you to keep distance.
Maintain Social Contacts
It may be impossible to stop thinking about that person but you can distract your thoughts. Once you have mourned over the loss of that relationship, socialize yourself with others. You should avoid sitting alone at home, crying over spilt relationship.
The more time you spend time alone, the more intense the feeling of “I miss you” will get. It’s important to keep positive social contacts to overcome the depressed feelings. Call your friends and arrange a get together. Watch a comical movie. Find an interesting activity to engage yourself.
This is one of the best ways to stop you dwelling on emotional pain. When you were busy in loving someone, you may have neglected yourself. Now it’s the best time to find out your own worth. So get up and make a list of all those awesome things about yourself that you can remember.
Express your love for yourself about these things. There might be some aspect that you’d like to work on. Just go for it. Embrace your freedom and try out whatever you want. Experiment with some cool hair style, get a new outfit and give yourself a makeover. These Lego blocks will give you a real happiness that doesn’t come from anyone else. The source is YOU.
Take It As An Experience
Although it hurts when one have a broken heart. But you can re-frame this rejection as a learning experience. Then it will be more than just a gloomy situation in your life. You can use it to encourage a positive future growth.
Remind yourself that you have learned things like self-confidence and strength. You will get to a better understanding of your feelings and desires. But if you have fallen for those who have refused you more than one time, then you might be subconsciously selecting individuals. In that case you need to talk to a therapist.
Avoid The Blame Game
It’s just like that as you have no control over falling in love with that person; he has no control over not falling in love with you. If you go around blaming him all the time for “friend-zoning” you or thinking that he is a terrible person for not loving you, you’ll be unfair with that person.
Avoid this because all this blaming won’t let you heal, instead it’ll keep on adding to your pain. Your friends may also try to villainies that person for not loving you back. If that so, thank them for supporting, for it will help you focus on getting over him.